When I assume...

We often assume that we know what the other person means, when we filter what we hear and distort it to something that is true to us, and that fits with our understanding and beliefs.

Renny Slade6 April 2021#thewiselearner, #communication, #communicationcoach, #listeningtounderstand, #bettersafethansorryComment

Violent self-talk

We all have our inner dialogue… and we are not always very nice to ourselves!
How can you move from telling yourself off or what to do, to making positive choices?

Renny Slade31 March 2021#thewiselearner, #wiselearnerwednesday, #communication, #selftalk, #communicationcoach, #ichoosetobecauseComment

CONTRACTS and CONTRACTUAL COMMUNICATION

Why do some conversations (personal or professional) seem to take up all your time without a satisfying outcome? This might be because of the lack of contractual communication.

Renny Slade3 March 2021#thewiselearner, #wiselearnerwednesday, #communication, #communicationcoach, #contracts, #contractualcommunicationComment

What DIDN'T you say?

There is what we say in words… and then there is that underlying message that stays ‘secret’ and unspoken. What is ulterior communication, and how can we uncover the secret messages?

Renny Slade24 February 2021#thewiselearner, #communication, #communicationcoach, #beaware, #bodylanguage, #ulteriorcommunication, #secretmessagesComment

WHAT?? An unconscious life-plan?

There is a ‘script’ running in your unconscious mind that influences how you behave and respond as an adult… What is this all about, and how can you change it?

Renny Slade17 February 2021#thewiselearner, #communicationcoach, #script, #lifeplan, #beaware, #autonomyComment

‘Not being heard’ vs. ‘Not feeling heard’

There is a distinct difference between these two which is important to understand - your response might depend on it!

Renny Slade3 February 2021#thewiselearner, #communication, #communicationcoach, #beingheard, #listeningtounderstand, #beaware, #breatheComment

Brussel sprouts and miscommunication

We often hear the words someone is saying, but we attach our own meaning to these words. How well do you listen? I mean: really, really listen?

Renny Slade7 October 2020#thewiselearner, #communication, #communicationcoach, #miscommunication, #listeningtounderstandComment

The language of guilt

When you apologise, is your apology completely genuine or might some guilt have slipped in? And how often do you feel you need to explain something, but then it comes across as complaining?

Renny Slade29 September 2020#thewiselearner, #communication, #communicationcoach, #languageofguiltComment